If anything starts drama it most certaintly is Facebook!!! Now, the thing is most of this is self imposed drama due to pics and status updates alone. The other half is based on who is "friended" and who is not. Now, I'm not one for holding too much in. However, on Facebook I have to. When I see a pregnancy announcment I have choices. I can chose to swallow my pride and congratulate them or just not say a thing or I could be totally cruel and say "AGAIN??" or something mean and all sorts of catty sounding that would defenintly start all sorts of drama. So, mostly I don't say anything.
Recently, one person on my Facebook wrote something to the effect of having a fantasy of what life would be like single and childless. Now, I understand needing "me time." We ALL need that. However, if you are going to post that for the world to see(even your Mother in Law) you need to be ready for the backlash. So, I wrote back, If you knew the reality behind those words they would take them back. That didn't go over so well. To me if you wish your life was different you DO have a right to vent that. We ALL have those wondering momments. I totally get that even without kids. HOWEVER, my first reaction was to tell her "Be careful what you wish for because I can tell you the reality of what life is like without kids."
Remember though, that your status updates can be seen by all and if you want the world to know what is going on in your private life or how you are feeling for only a moment then be ready for the consequences. Be ready for judegment and cruel words if you say something mean that you feel at the moment and may not feel an hour later. There are momments that I want to write the truth, but I don't need hundreds of opinions and comments, and mostly only a VERY small percentage know what we are going through family making wise and I'd like to keep it that way. Now, I do have a link on my profile to Resolve on there for a reason to clue people in and hopefully to keep them from asking questions about why I don't have kids. Situations like this have made me more aware of what I write. I'm trying to stick to "Its cold" etc from now on. NO MATTER what is going on IRL!!!
2 comments:
Hi, just found your blog today from ICLW! I so can relate to this! I had a friend who got pregnant a few months after her wedding date...I had been trying for almost 4 years. All she did was complain about how unhappy she was and how much she hated being pregnant. I finally had to put her on hide mode...you can hide your friends so you can't see their status. It was the best thing I did.
you know thinking about it now, I dont think I could have been in such a big social network place like facebook before we adopted, when I was in the middle of ttc, I think I would have made too many people hate me!!!!
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