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Monday, February 4, 2019

Mom

One aspect I struggled with was being called mom finally after all these years. It’s amazing to hear and in one day our sweet girl will call me multiple versions of “mom”. Mama, mommy, mom.
I have to pinch myself some days. Our girl just turned two and is wonderful she can count to 10, and knows quite a few letters. She is sweet and kind and demanding. All things that two entails.  Being mom is wonderful.

With all that said, I don’t discredit where she came from. I urge those who adopt to respect her birth family. Some situations may make that difficult, but their choices led that child to you. Don’t let anyone make you feel like less of a mom because you adopted. There will be plenty of those feelings inside you,  but remind yourself of what you mean to this child. You are their smuggler, their playmate, disciplinarian, guide in all this Christian, You are where they land on a bad day. Just as any child does, they save the big emotions for you. Embrace the chaos.

So, find your balance. It takes a while. You may feel acutely aware of the birthparent’s loss. It’s hard not to internalize that especially if you had prior losses someway yourself.  Respect it, but in the end you are no less a parent than the woman next door who spent 9 months pregnant. Adoption will make you appreciate your child so much more. I promise. It doesn’t make the job any easier.

Love your babies. Thank God every day for them and be an amazing Christian example for them to follow!

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